Submit to My Husband..Say What?!

A Devotion on Submission in Marriage — What Does it REALLY Mean?

If you’re like me, the thoughts of not being super strong and independent makes you quiver in all kinds of YUCK!  Me, be a push-over?  …I THINK NOT!  I’m a woman of the females are strong and powerful and smart!!!  So the thoughts of being submissive equals something I have put off thinking about for a long while.

BUT…alas, if I am going to do a devotion on marriage, God’s word and submission needs to be discussed. 

Colossians 3:18
18. Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

1 Peter 3:1-2
  1. Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2. when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Is your view on submission in marriage similar to what mine was? A husband demanding his wife to cook him dinner and a sweet wife who says “yes, dear?” ….. ugh…. How about, YOU, dear husband cook ME dinner 🙂 Yeah, that sounds more like my view of marriage!

But, let’s think about what submission means. …and we’re not talking 50 shades either….

If your BOSS/SUPERVISOR tells you to do something, do you do it?

When you read a speed limit sign, do you obey it?

Today, for FaithFriday, I want  you  to think about your husband as a spiritual leader — as someone who isn’t a “boss” but a leader who you are the helpmate of.

A common lie that women believe is that if they submit to their husband, they’ll be miserable. Submission isn’t about “losing” or being a slave, it’s about seeing your marriage the way God sees the church, His bride. The husband is to lead spiritually, and we are to be his helpmate. If your husband is not the spiritual leader in the family, the wife is to still be reverent and represent God in her daily life.

This excerpt is taken from a book called Lies Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (which I highly suggest ;))
“When we place ourselves under the spiritual covering of the authorities God has placed in our lives, God protects us. On the other hand, when we insist on having it our way and stepping out from underneath that covering and protection, we open ourselves up to the influence and attack of the Enemy….I have discovered that the fundamental issue in relation to submission really comes down to my willingness to trust God and to place myself under His authority. When I am willing to obey Him, I find it is not nearly so difficult or threatening to submit to the human authorities He has placed in my life.”

*Pray for God to change your perspective on this and to give you a submissive heart.

A Devotion on Speaking LIFE and LOVE: Words Matter

A Devotion on Speaking Words of LOVE

How are you using your words? We don’t realize how much of an impact our words have, but they literally have the power to give life or give death to a person. Ladies, we all get frustrated with our husbands. We all get annoyed when he leaves his socks (or whatever else) around after we tell him over and over to pick them up. Sometimes we tend to focus on all the little things he does wrong and overlook all the other things he does right. Sometimes we just have to let go of the things that bug us.

Have you been building up your spouse with positive words? Or with comments about how he could do this or that better? ALL men want respect from the women in their lives, and they value that highly. Do you give instructions with kindness? Do you speak life into your husband?

This past week, I challenged myself and my Periscope followers to the #SpeakLife Words Challenge! for the entire week, I was only going to speak words of positivity and UPLIFT my amazing husband. I’ve been blessed with a husband who is patient and tolerate of me and my thyroid mood swings.

So if you’re following me on Twitter, you may have seen me updating you on the #speaklife challenge. While it isn’t easy, I feel SO much better and I’m sure that my husband feels uplifted and respected.

Living with an autoimmune disorder like Hashitmotos Thyroid we face many challenges — and mood swings are just one. Add in the fatigue, and BOOM…. I can be more explosive than dynamite. And my poor husband is often on the receiving end. I made a promise to myself to pray about this every day both morning and night and ask God to HELP ME. Thankfully, the new supplements that I’m on seem to be helping the fatigue — which I hope will help with my case of the crankies.

In this video, we talk about what the Word of God tells us about the POWER of WORDS.  We take a look at 3 scriptures:

Proverbs 18:21

18. The tongue has the power of life and death..

Proverbs 31:26
26. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness

Ephesians 5:33

33. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband

TODAY — encourage your husband with something he does well.  Make sure to make a point of going the extra mile and out of your way to be expressive and appreciative.

Do you think you can do the #SpeakLife challenge for a week?  I’d love to hear it if you try.

Marriage Devotion – A look at Showing LOVE to your Spouse

Marriage Devotion: Do you REALLY love your spouse?

1 Corinthians 13:4-7



4. Love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


Love Healthy Marriage
We can say that we love our husband/wife, but do we really follow these characteristics of love every day? If you replace love with your name in the verses above, can you say those things are true? Even though we will never be perfect in showing these (only Jesus is), we can still strive to practice this kind of love with our spouses.
My challenge to you today is to pick one characteristic of love from the scripture to focus on showing to your spouse today. If there is one in particular that you struggle with, focus on that one. I encourage you to PRAY about what characteristic you need to work on.
A CHALLENGE for you to consider: 

Are there any wrongs that your spouse has done that you are holding onto? When Christ forgives us of our sins, he does not keep a tab of wrongs. We need to strive to be like Christ and forgive our spouse of the wrongs and hurt and then FORGET about it. I know that is easier said than done. But with prayer and allowing God to heal your heart, and to TRULY forgive the hurt, this is possible.

I’d love to hear what characteristic you’re working on and how its going! I’d love to support you with prayer.